The instruction is to know what’s happening as it is – ‘Awareness is not landing, but I’m aware of it.’ What’s wrong with that? Clearly it has landed.
Restlessness, aversion, and trying too hard (trying not to complain is trying too hard) make the mind tired at the end of the day. There is no need to not complain; just need to know that you are.
It’s not to avoid the object – if we love someone, it’s not to remove the person or the experience – it’s to know the attachment. And if we understand, the attachment will go. (42:00-42:18)
The good news is when you see the mad mind, that’s the sane mind. Knowing is the antidote. (37:40…)