Yogi: Acceptance is passive – how to be more active? For example, if someone continues to make the same mistakes, should I do something?
Sayadaw: You need to intentionally try to help – accept first and then help. You can help but you don’t have to be upset; getting upset is the problem. If you cannot accept, you get upset.
You don’t have wisdom anymore if you get upset and angry. Then, how can you think of the right way to help? When you become angry and upset, when the quality of mind is not good, how can you then help?
(Acceptance is not passive; it is actively changing the quality of mind from aversion to neutral. That is the first step; when the mind is balanced, only then can it think what to do in a reasonable way.)