Yogi: When I sit, I get tense and it is hard for the mind to be relaxed or aware. I use Sayadaw’s advice to ask myself if the mind is relaxed to get the mind to relax. 

Sayadaw: It is more about checking what the attitude of the mind is rather than if the mind is relaxed. 

There is tension now – how does the mind feel about the tension? Does it like it?

Yogi: Of course not.

Sayadaw: Watch the disliking if you can, in a relaxed way.