Yogi: How do I practice with sadness and grief that surface when I’m sending metta to my departed loved ones? 

I can see the emotion come and go because I’m not wanting it or pushing it away. Sayadaw mentions that happiness and suffering are both objects; could Sayadaw elaborate?

Sayadaw: You already know how to observe grief. Observing grief doesn’t mean that it goes away. 

You seem to be neutral in observing it – you can have an intention to understand more about the nature of grief.

Since you experience it, you have the opportunity to observe it and understand its nature.

Grief arises because of conditions that allow grief to arise – what are these conditions?

You will understand that it is also a process – it is not personal.

Whatever we experience, the first priority is to observe so that we get the right understanding about it.