Yogi: With my family and at the workplace, there are often situations that are not wholesome or when I don’t feel good with – at what point should I stop looking at the aversion and go into action and do something about it and not just look at the aversion?

Sayadaw: At first, you try to avoid the object and watch your mental pain and see when there is no mental pain if you can deal with that object and whether it changes the way you deal with the object and see if it is effective. It is a learning process, always taking yourself away to deal with your own mental pain first so that you can better deal with your family and workplace issues.

The sooner we can deal with mental pain like if we notice it initially and start working on it immediately, it can relieve it faster. If we deal with it later, it takes much longer.