People are afraid of suffering because they’re attached to peacefulness.
Everybody has lobha already; we want everything to be okay. That is why when something not okay happens, the mind immediately reacts with suffering. Reacting, right?
It is because we’re attached to wanting everything to be good and okay.
We don’t know it – only when something unpleasant happens that we realize our attachment.
Anger arises because of lobha, because of craving, and when we cannot get what we want.
We cannot accept it because we expect a good experience.
Sayadaw: Instead of contemplating, it is better to just recognize as a reminder that we’ll grow old and there will be pain – it is a process. You will not forget then.
When you contemplate, check if the mind is calm and peaceful. If the mind is not happy, then there is dosa. If so, it is not contemplating, it is complaining.