When we ask the W and H questions, we immediately go to the external reasons. Why am I angry? She made me angry. Why am I upset? They are noisy.
When I say why, I’m not talking about the story. I’m asking what it is that I know now (in my own experience, not outside) that is making the mind angry. So, you have to look within yourself to see what you are knowing that is directly connected to the feeling right there.
When unwholesome qualities are in the mind, there are thoughts and beliefs that are operating and the emotions that come with them. They are all feeding each other and we want to watch the process.
It’s only when we have stepped back from that experience that we can look at it like an outside observer and can then see that this is happening. But, if we are identified with the experience, then it is difficult to separate ourselves from what is happening.