Yogi: When someone shouts at me or blames me, if I don’t care or believe that, my mind doesn’t suffer; but when the mind cares or believes that, it suffers.
I don’t understand why they do it or why sometimes my mind gets hurt and sometimes not.
Sayadaw: When you don’t know the answer, you take care of your own mind by calming down first. Only then, you can find the cause.
Yogi: I can guess intellectually, but that’s not good enough.
Sayadaw: If you don’t know, you have to recognize that you don’t know. You just watch how you feel and take care of yourself first because you cannot control other things.
When you feel bad, it has to do with you – so, you take care of your emotions first. Learn about what the mind thinks and how the mind feels.
When the mind suffers, you take care of it first. This is your responsibility – that’s all.